8:28 pm, Thursday 11th February 2016
Hiring an escort may seem like a pretty straightforward activity. After all, most clients are just men seeking some female company. What it can do though, is help people to realise their innermost desires, and get to know themselves a little bit better. So how does spending time with an escort lead to some self-discovery?
In the company of an escort, it's not unusual for clients to become much more honest and open. After all, seeing an escort involves some level of intimacy, and it's hard to leave your emotions at the door. Sex workers as well as escorts have also expressed the same kind of view. Men become much more able to express their feelings after they've fulfilled whatever urge they booked the appointment for. A theory for this is that after we've achieved what we want, we then try to achieve what we need – and there's sometimes a big difference.
Men often hire escorts for companionship – and as their date is drawing to a close, often feel lonelier than they did during certain parts of the evening. Why? Well, when we experience euphoria, we're often pretty sated and relaxed afterwards. Being so chilled out means that it's much easier to get in touch with our emotions – whether they are pleasant or not. Does this mean that you didn't have a good time? Absolutely not.
An encounter with an escort can leave you feeling pretty enlightened about what you want, and along with that, what you need. It may be controversial, but it's easy to compare therapy to escorting; and escorting to therapy and other kinds of emotional intimacy. It's also possible to compare it all to meditation. While this may not make much sense at first, it's easy to see the links between all of these if you look a little closer at the whole experience.
Meditation is all about examining your own thoughts and desires, and using those to get to know yourself better. Another word for this is mindfulness. Therapy? Well, it's much the same – except you are getting to know yourself with the help of another person. A great encounter with a partner or escort is using another person to get to know yourself better, as is the emotional intimacy you feel afterwards. When you're alone, masturbation is a way of getting to know yourself and becoming attuned to your desires. While they're all different things on the surface – they all come down to one thing, the real you.
What the concept of how sex, relationships and the mirror shows us is that there's no better way of finding out what you like than by getting intimate with someone. Whether it's the emotional intimacy an escort can offer or a more physical kind with a partner, experimentation and honesty can lead to us leading more fulfilling lives both in and out of the bedroom. So next time you wonder why someone would hire an escort, think of what we've discussed here. It certainly puts a fresh spin on things!