9:30 pm, Friday 22nd April 2016
From emotionally connecting to doing plenty of research, being a great lover requires lots of hard work.
Lantana Bleu enjoyed a career as a hugely successful high-class escort. She's even written a two-part book inspired by her time in the industry, The Spicy Secrets of a Jet Set Temptress, due for release in April 2016.
Spending time with plenty of men over the years means that she's got plenty of experience about what works in the bedroom. So when she decided to share some of her tips, we were all ears. After all, no matter how great your love life is, there's always something new to learn.
Boost their ego
According to Lantana, the most important thing to remember is that sharing a deep level of physical intimacy requires a strong emotional connection. So it's important to take the time to talk to your partner and really find out what they're thinking. Boosting your partner's ego is always a good move. Both man and women can suffer from anxiety in the bedroom, and need reassurance and validation. You can't really boost a lover's confidence too much – after all, they'll perform better if their insecurities have been banished. Which can only be a good thing for you!
Secondly, try to do things a little differently. Things can easily become a little stale, and that can lead to the pair of you feeling unsatisfied. Just going through the motions doesn't cut it – which is why you should try something a little different. Role play, sending a cheeky text message, or a weekend in a luxurious hotel room - there are plenty of ways to spice things up. It may be a little awkward or embarrassing to step outside your comfort zone at first, but it will be worth it in the end.
It's important to dedicate a lot of time to becoming a good lover. It's like driving a car – you can't expect to be good at it straight away. Becoming a real expert takes a while, and you need to be prepared to put in the effort. That means plenty of research, practice and communication between you and your partner. There are plenty of books and websites out there that can help you expand your knowledge. While it may take a while for you to perfect your skills, there's no denying that practising is a lot of fun!
Last but not least is escapism. We're constantly on our phones, tablets or laptops – with little chance to forge an emotional connection. That's why people hire escorts, as they know that the appointment is just going to be about them, with no distractions. So that's the approach you should be taking with your own love life. Make sure there's no blaring televisions or buzzing phones in your bedroom. Instead, make it a tranquil retreat. Think some sensual music, soft lighting and flickering candles. Now if that doesn't ignite the flames of passion, we don't know what will!
There's few women out there who are as experienced and as talented as Lantana. Her years in the industry mean that her advice is pretty invaluable to anyone looking to spice up their love life. Whether you're planning a naughty night in or a cheeky weekend away, ones thing is for sure - if you start putting in the work now, you'll reap some very raunchy rewards!